There is no single right answer. Proportional is a common place to start when incomes differ, because it keeps the pressure on each budget about the same. 50/50 suits couples with similar pay or a strong preference for keeping things even. Equal leftover suits couples who think of the household as one pot of spending money.
Use take-home pay, the amount that reaches your account after tax and deductions, and count only the bills you share. Revisit the split when either income changes. If you keep separate accounts, each person can pay their share into a joint account or cover specific bills directly. More on that in our guide to budgeting for couples with separate accounts. For the formula behind the proportional method, see how to split rent in proportion to income.
Whatever you choose, talk it through together. A split that looks fair on paper still needs to feel fair to both of you. Try each method with your own numbers, notice who ends up with more breathing room, and agree on a way to revisit it after a raise, a job change or a new bill.